Being surrounded by negative people makes us feel uncomfortable. After communicating with them, our energy reserves can completely dry up. Fortunately, there are several simple ways to restore your strength and energy after an unpleasant interaction.
Communication allows a person to feel like a full member of society. Every day we are forced to communicate with people at home, at work, on the street and in stores. The question arises whether communication can harm our health and internal state.
It all depends on who you communicate with, on the character, life and qualities of the person. During an acquaintance, a signal of sympathy or dislike for a certain person immediately arises within us, sometimes without obvious reasons. In the second case, the very energy of your interlocutor reveals his dark sides to you. Perhaps at first glance this person seems more than positive to everyone, but his inner world says the opposite.
The purpose of communication is to obtain new information and emotions, and contacts with negative people can affect not only your mood, but also your energy. From this article you can learn how to restore energy reserves after unpleasant communication.
Ways to restore energy
After an unpleasant conversation, you may feel tired, apathetic, and even depressed. The reason for this is a weakened biofield. During contacts with other people, we spend a lot of energy, but if communication carries positive emotions, then you will be in a good mood for a long time. Otherwise, you need to restore your strength yourself.
Walk. In nature you can relax and restore vitality. After an unpleasant interaction, it is best to go for a walk and spend time alone. Listen to the sound of leaves, look around you and enjoy the beauty around you. Even a regular jog in the park will help you relax and free your thoughts from negativity and bad memories.
Communication with pets. Even a simple touch from a four-legged friend helps us get rid of accumulated stress. If you have had to deal with an energy vampire or communication with a certain person has left an unpleasant mark on your soul, just pet your pet. In this case, cat owners are especially lucky. When these animals feel that the owner is tense or upset about something, they immediately begin to cuddle up to him and show their affection.
Music. Favorite melodies not only give us pleasure, but also help get rid of negative energy. Psychologists have been using a treatment method such as music therapy for several years now. The result of such an effect on the human body is in most cases positive. Listening to your favorite music can help you get rid of negative emotions after an unpleasant conversation.
Cold and hot shower. A cool shower at the end of a hard day is the best way to relax and revive yourself. It turns out that this method also helps to replenish energy reserves. Water has strong healing properties, which has a positive effect not only on our energy background, but also on health in general. When you get home, get into the shower and try to get rid of unnecessary thoughts. At this moment, you should tune in to a positive mood and leave the memories of unpleasant communication in the past, and then you can feel an additional surge of strength.
Some people are energy vampires from birth. During communication, they feed on the energy of their interlocutor, depriving him of vitality. To protect yourself, find out who in your environment may be an energy vampire. Let only positive people surround you, and don't forget to press the buttons and
21.02.2018 04:07
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One girl approached me with a question, who complained that in communication people very often blame “their monkeys” (their problems) on her. She often feels bad after communicating with a person, her mood deteriorates, her head hurts, and she “gives up.” There are all the signs of “poisoning” on the face.
This is what I decided to answer her.
Life is structured in such a way that we humans, like all living organisms, must eat, that is, eat. We cannot live without food. But since we are developed beings, we want to eat tasty and aesthetically pleasing. And wanting to get acquainted with refined tastes, people go to good restaurants and look for decent chefs.
In the art of nutrition there is a measure of taste. It is not a sin for a cook or waiter who serves us an over-salted, not fresh, or spoiled dish to return this dish. Therefore, any gourmet tastes a dish before eating it. This effect is called “sampling.”
A person’s need for communication often leads to negative consequences for himself. There are people, for example, who are not very selective in contacts, friendships and communication - they are omnivores. They love to communicate, but it’s like being an omnivore in food. It seems to them that their “stomach” can digest anything. But sooner or later, with this approach, the resource is depleted and the soul is poisoned.
Communication conversation– this is the same food for people. This is refined, refined food. Unlike ordinary biological food, informational food enters our body unnoticed. Therefore, if you feel unwell, a person usually knows what kind of food he was poisoned by, he just has to remember which chef, which restaurant he ate at.
In ordinary dialogue and communication, feeling unwell comes later, and it’s oh so difficult to notice the poisoner himself or the poisoned speech. It’s not in the stomach that feels bad. Rotten speech quietly enters our soul and sometimes imperceptibly affects our internal organs, mainly the heart and mind. But who cares enough about their soul, who pays enough attention to healthy informational food??? I personally know few such people.
On the other hand, an interesting conversation, good communication is spiritual food that you cannot do without. “The greatest luxury in the world is the luxury of human communication,” wrote Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. This wisdom cannot be disowned.
If we communication and speech, like food, they would taste it, then they would become useful, become a luxury. If we refused bad communication in that direction and with those people who do not suit us, then we would have every chance not to eat “poison”.
So, how to communicate correctly so that it becomes a healing potion, but not a poison.
Take a few tips:
1. Speech and verbal communication have a great impact on a person. That's why:
Don’t be an omnivore, decide on your tastes, and be attentive to the menu offered.
Interest is the gate through which information enters the psyche and influences us in the process of communication. Therefore, interest should always be suspended with the question: what will this give me? Why do I need it? If we cannot answer these questions, then we are being influenced without our knowledge. When we have answered, we ask the following questions: is everything useful to me, do I like everything? Know that ineffective communication can be harmful.
2. Simply communicating and communicating more is not always helpful. Because:
Some foods may taste and smell wonderful, but they are poisonous. We should moderate our passion for what is not useful for us, and reduce our interest in unwanted dialogue.
In food, we can quickly determine that we have eaten something poisonous - after an hour or two we feel sick. Poisonous negative communication It is not immediately recognizable; it affects us over time. Therefore, it is important to dose not only food, but also communication.
3. Sometimes you need to limit communication, even stop communicating.
We also dose even healing poisons when we realize that they are dangerous to our health.
How to dose? Most often, when we communicate, or watch something, or read, we do not ask the question: “why do I need this?” But, if you asked, then in most cases the answer would not please you. You always need to approach interactions from the perspective of what is useful to you and what is not. Simply remove uninteresting speech, communication, useless waste of time from your life.
4. Set communication goals and objectives for yourself. Know that:
You should hurry not only to fill your belly, but also to eat something that is beneficial for your worldview.
Once we learn to recognize our own motives for communicating, we suddenly begin to see how information works within us. And if we understand that we don’t really like it, we can shorten the time of any conversation or dialogue. Then it will be easier for us to break harmful ties, etc.
But, alas, most often these things go unnoticed. Therefore, you should always ask your loved one a few key questions. It is advisable to always identify the main goals of communication and stick to them.
5. The ability to communicate, like the ability to eat right, depends on you.
Only our own taste can protect us from mistakes.
“A man without a goal is like a ship without a compass - you don’t know where it will sail.” It's the same in communication. If we enter into a dialogue and do not know what it gives us, how it affects us, there is a high probability that the impact of communication will be unpredictable or even negative. Then, when we know what, how, why, why and according to what laws, it is impossible to influence you. This is the first principle of protection against manipulation.
When we know that we are being manipulated, it is no longer possible to manipulate us. Therefore, it is impossible to influence if we see how this happens, we see what our goal of communication is and what our opponent is. The manipulation is closed. Nothing unnecessary will get into us.
The ability to communicate, checking one’s own feelings, tastes and needs e Bnostami is a subtle art. N You cannot be deceived and we cannot be manipulated if we have our own vision, our own taste, and know the price of the dish. We cannot be fed something tasteless if we clearly know what we want to consume and are ready to stand up for our goal.
Therefore, it depends only on you, dear readers, whether you will have pleasant communication, whether the food will be tasty and healthy.
Have a nice conversation.
If, while communicating with a person, you feel some discomfort and a feeling of depression, it means that your interlocutor is consciously, or without realizing it, putting pressure on your psyche. For a person who does not understand the psychology of behavior, this is simply unpleasant communication that causes certain feelings, irritation, rejection, contempt and some others, in a word, a feeling of discomfort and anxiety. It's all about unconscious communication, the kind of communication that we often communicate with each other. When a person utters certain words, he can put his feelings into them, such as contempt, ridicule, anger, envy and so on, in general, everything that can evoke in his interlocutor certain emotions that are adequate to what was put into the words that he heard. To put it simply, all spoken words have their own meaning. The words themselves show only the meaning that is open to our understanding, that is, it is simply a decoding of the meaning of the word.
But the hidden meaning is not so easy to notice; it lies in such details as tone, emotionality, rhythm and, most importantly, the time and place when a person talks about something. And, of course, the feelings and thoughts that a person puts into his words are very important. You yourself have probably heard the same word more than once, but pronounced in different ways, and in different cases it could evoke different emotions in you. People who are skilled in such communication techniques very often manipulate other people, causing them to have a certain image of themselves. Through dialogue with them. As an example, you can take a beggar, a disabled person or a woman with a child, who will play on your feelings of guilt and, as a result, pity for them, simply causing such an emotion in you, influencing you.
At the same time, there may not be communication itself, but the urge to your feelings is there and that’s enough. However, this is still an open form of influence, and it is obvious to many, but what is more difficult to notice is, for example, communication between two people, in which one of the interlocutors first admires the other, winning him over as much as possible with the help of subtle flattery and great attention , and then casually turns the conversation to his problems, and how hard it is for him to live a life in which there is absolutely no one to count on. Such a hint that you need to meet certain requirements and be above the rest is often perceived automatically. Therefore, it does not matter at all what the interlocutor says, what is more important is why he says it. Here you need to think about what a person might need from you if he communicates with you in such a way as to give you great pleasure.
As you can see, the examples given indicate to us a possible impact on our psyche, through urges to our unconscious thinking. After all, when you enjoy communicating with a person, thanks to his respectful attitude towards you, you may not think about the goals of his communication, and simply enjoy the process. You can be in a company of people where someone talks about his life, just like that, without any specific calls, as if casually mentioning certain details, he talks about himself without any openly expressed emotions, he does not extol himself, does not laugh above himself and does not ridicule others, but at the same time, he is in favor of those around him. The point is to say what people want to hear, what's on people's minds, and what's important, in a language they understand. Then they will listen with pleasure and respond to the person’s words in the right way.
People themselves, without realizing it, develop sympathy for such a person; no one knows why, but they begin to like him, because nothing happens for nothing, and words are not spoken just like that. If we return to uncomfortable communication, which is what we are actually talking about, then everything here works according to the same principle. Your unconscious part of the brain receives negative information, this is either aggression against you, or an incentive to do something, or simply the interlocutor indicates to you that he is superior to you. Moreover, as I already said, the interlocutor may not necessarily understand what he is doing and how he is doing it, just his feelings towards the one with whom he is communicating can prompt him to communicate in a certain way.
Let’s say, it’s hard to communicate with a person as a simple interlocutor if you hate him fiercely, or, on the contrary, love him very much, because your words will be filled with the feelings that you experience, they will carry exactly the information that is actually intended for your interlocutor. That’s why this is called unconscious communication, because words themselves are empty, there is nothing behind them except what can be seen with desire and understanding. As I already said, this is material for a whole book, because in order to convey the whole meaning of such unconscious communication and, most importantly, to teach people to see what is actually hidden behind people’s words, it is necessary to give massive examples with the help of which one can penetrate into the very essence of all this . So what to do if you feel discomfort when communicating with a person? There are several ways to resolve this situation so that both you and your interlocutor do not play games with the subconscious.
The easiest way is to refuse to communicate with a person with whom you are not comfortable, because you don’t know what’s going on, but if you don’t like it, then why do you need such communication. If this person is significant to you, maybe it’s your relative or you just see him quite often and are forced to contact him, then pay attention to his manner of communication. Take a closer look at the person, whether the slightest particle of expectation slips into his manner of communication; this can be understood by a questioning glance, or by a sharp interruption of speech, as, in fact, by the desire to communicate with you in general.
If your interlocutor expects something from you, if he often comes up to you and tries to communicate, he clearly needs something, and the best way to find out is to ask a direct and clear question about what he needs from you. Try to ask the question precisely at the moment when the interlocutor is desperately expecting something from you, when you feel the maximum discomfort from his words. This usually works because we are all human and we have emotions that force us to bring our inner feelings to light.
I have not given all the possible examples that can occur during uncomfortable communication, and not all the ways to solve such a problem with discomfort, but by at least understanding the nature of such discomfort, you can already control its possible occurrence. As for your response to the unconscious part of your interlocutor, or an unconscious message to his consciousness, something like a counterattack against him, then I will write a separate book about this. This will be a book about the unconscious behavior of people, from which you will learn a lot more.
I didn't believe in evil eyes before, considering them a folk invention, stupid superstitions. But recently I began to understand that there is something in this... Our people are wise, they have been accumulating knowledge about human psychology and relationships for centuries. Certainly, remove evil eyes on grandmothers I won’t go, but it won’t hurt to adhere to certain rules in communicating with people and cultivate inner strength.
In life we are surrounded by different people - with some it is pleasant to communicate and spend time, with others I want to meet you least of all. Some inspire us and add positive emotions, while others, on the contrary, seem to suck out all the juice. After communicating with such people, you feel physically exhausted, empty, everything falls out of your hands, and your head hurts. Previously they were called people with the evil eye, now - energy vampires. Moreover, among them there are, relatively speaking, active and passive “individuals”. And if the latter suck the strength out of you without wanting it (they can also be among friends), then the active ones attack deliberately, recharging with someone else’s energy.
The worst thing is when, due to the will of circumstances, a person is forced to communicate with the “vampire” constantly. The best victim for them - an emotionally impressionable person who is easy to “bite” and hurt. Then they either continue to finish off the “bitten” person, or release him for a while and take on another victim. At times it is unbearable to even be around such a person. To protect yourself from "vampires", you must first of all cultivate endurance and indestructibility.
How to protect yourself from an energy vampire
Never show a “vampire” that you have succumbed to his “bites.” In no case you can't show your weakness, become depressed. Otherwise, he will simply “eat” you. When communicating with a “vampire” you should try to stay away from him, mentally put an invisible wall between you and them. And also try... to smile at this person (but not remove the “wall”). Such a benevolent reaction will irritate the energy vampire, “disarming” him.
The main thing is not to become like a “vampire” do not answer him in the same coin. Relations with him need to be narrowed to the narrowest framework. In addition, such people like to provoke frank conversations, get into someone else's soul and pretend that they care about you. They will smile in your face and hold a stone in their bosom. It is advisable not to share personal joy or achievements with them. At such moments, you open up, and the “vampires” suck all the positivity out of you. They themselves will never tell good news about themselves. Most of them, by nature, are people with difficult characters who are always dissatisfied with everything.
"Vampire" will complain, that “I didn’t have any rest this year: there was no weather, the food in the sanatorium was terrible,” “I didn’t buy anything for travel at the market - I just spent money,” “there are only problems at home.” This is a smart tactic. By painting everything in black, he makes you feel “depressed.” He also makes a protective barrier so that he is not accidentally jinxed or envied. He simply judges others by himself. Although he himself often has, as people say, an evil eye. He just looks at an open person, and in a few minutes he will stumble, or suddenly have a stomach ache or headache. In more severe cases, a long black streak occurs in life... After that, you just want to tie a red thread on your wrist. Just in case.
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